Inspirational Quotes & Stories: Relationships
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Many people ask the question, "How can you begin to heal a relationship
with someone who you believe has caused you pain?" How about trying a
case of amnesia. Remember that what you choose not to forgive will weigh
you down as long as you choose to carry that thought with you.
Regardless of how right you thought you were in defending your position,
regardless of whose fault you perceived the situation to be, you will
carry the pain until you are able to forgive your brother or sister. As
the great "philosopher" Buddy Hackett once said, "Don't carry a grudge.
While you're carrying the grudge, the other guy's out dancing." Forgive
your brother, release him and you shall set yourself free.
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James Blanchard Cisneros, You Have Chosen to Remember: A Journey From
Perception to Knowledge, Peace of Mind and Joy, p. 158
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Understand that there are those who are so invested in the ego's thought
system that they believe that if you do not get physically upset, shout
and argue with them, you do not really care about them or love them. Sit
quietly for a moment and understand what this says about those
individuals. Imagine how lost and confused they must feel. They equate
love with being physically upset, shouting, arguing and regret. But do
not judge them, for they simply have bought the ego's fairy tale as
true. My friend, only small children believe fairy tales are true. Thus,
if you encounter such beings, simply offer them even more comfort and
love, and one day they will realize that comfort and love is the only
sane response to comfort and love.
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James Blanchard Cisneros, You Have Chosen to Remember: A Journey From
Perception to Knowledge, Peace of Mind and Joy, p. 165
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Before you were born, you chose the individuals who became your parents.
You were aware of the issues you would face, and the environment you
were coming to experience. You may now believe that you choose
emotionally and physically abusive men in your relationships because
your father was an emotionally and physically abusive man. Yet, you came
to Earth understanding the environment in which you were placing
yourself. You also came to Earth to learn about love, forgiveness and
service. The first people you came to love, forgive and serve were your
parents. If you do not learn to love the truth of who your father is,
then you will choose men with his characteristics to assist you in
learning to love, forgive and serve such beings. There is something
about your father's behavior that has blocked your awareness to the
presence of love, the truth in him. If you do not choose to work with
your father and his characteristics, then brothers with the same
characteristics will offer themselves to you in order to assist you in
releasing these blocks. They will offer themselves to you, and you will
not only accept them, but you will strangely be attracted to them,
because deep within, you know that there is something that you need to
learn that only they can teach.
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James Blanchard Cisneros, You Have Chosen to Remember: A Journey From
Perception to Knowledge, Peace of Mind and Joy, p. 174-175
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My friend, with one thought or action unlike that of the ego, the fog
will begin to lift. Just as thinking with the ego-self produces
confusion, judgment and separation, so too does thinking with the
Godself produce clarity, peace of mind, unity and joy. My friend, such a
wonderful moment is about to happen to you and any attempt to describe
it with words would be futile. A moment is coming when you will look at
the being the ego calls a total stranger and you will see him as a
friend. The ego will defend itself against this perceived attack to its
"reality" by saying that this is no big deal. But I offer you that this
is the beginning of the end of the ego's grip on your perception of
reality. As soon as you do this once with a completely open, love-filled
heart and mind, the fog will immediately begin to lift. Simply lay your
eyes on a brother or sister who in the past you would have immediately
judged as a stranger, and see him or her as God's perfect creation.
Seeing your brother without judgment, with a completely open,
love-filled heart and mind will fill you with so much compassion, love
and joy that you will never again consciously choose to see another
brother any other way. You will be so grateful for being able to see him
as he truly is that you will look forward to doing this every day. The
more you do this the clearer your days will become. Day by day the fog
will continue to lift, and as it does, clarity will begin to surround
your every thought. You will quickly develop deep gratitude and respect
for all your brothers and sisters, and as you do the lines that separate
your physical selves will begin to dissolve, merging into a oneness that
is new to you, yet somehow quite familiar. As you continue to spend more
time during the day remembering and acknowledging this oneness, the
ego's attempts to have you fear and separate from your brother or sister
will diminish, until one day the ego completely dissolves into the
nothingness from which it came.
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James Blanchard Cisneros, You Have Chosen to Remember: A Journey From
Perception to Knowledge, Peace of Mind and Joy, p. 188-189
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"Your neighbor is
your other self dwelling behind a wall. In understanding, all walls
shall fall down. Who knows but that your neighbor is your better self,
wearing another body? See that you love him as you would love yourself.
He too is the manifestation of the Most High, whom you do not know. Your
neighbor is a field where the springs of your hope walk in their green
garments, and where the winters of your desire dream of snowy heights. I
would have you love your neighbor even as I have loved you."
Then I asked Him
saying, "How can I love a neighbor who loves me not, and who covets my
property? One who would steal my possessions?"
And He answered,
"When you are plowing and your oxen is sowing the seed behind you, would
you stop and look backward and put to flight a sparrow feeding upon a
few of your seeds? Should you do this, you were not worthy of the riches
of your harvest."
When Jesus had said
this, I was ashamed and was silent. But I was not in fear, for He smiled
upon me."
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Kahlil Gibran,
Jesus Son of Man
Cited in You Have Chosen to Remember, p.189-190
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My brother and
sister, the ego would have you search for someone who is your opposite,
murmuring to you that this mysterious person will make you happy. The
ego also has you on a continuous journey for that mysterious person who
will someday make you whole and complete. Finally, the ego provides you
with the main rule of its game, that you must play the game with one
partner until your or your partner's death to truly experience victory,
success and happiness. Notice how the ego subtlety hints and whispers
that you must search outside yourself to find and experience happiness,
completion, victory and success. For if you must search outside
yourself, then by the process of elimination, happiness, completion,
victory and success cannot be within you now. Notice how the ego says
'that your opposite will make you happy.' What do you think the ego is
implying with such a statement? My brother and sister, remember one of
the ego's main schemes is to have you search but not find.
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James Blanchard Cisneros, You Have Chosen to Remember: A Journey From
Perception to Knowledge, Peace of Mind and Joy, p. 247
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As you recognize
your wholeness, you will look for an individual who is himself or
herself whole. This relationship will not be lacking because you will
now understand that there is nothing you lack. The relationship shifts
from trying to get what you lack into one of sharing your wholeness.
My brother and sister, because you are already whole, you are also
already successful. The truth is the truth, and your only decision is to
recognize it or to veil it. Every moment with your brother or sister is
a success, for in such a moment, you are either experiencing your truth
or making an effort to recall it. My brother and sister, there is not
one relationship you have ever had, be it for 50 seconds or for 50
years, that has been a failure. Every moment and every brother or sister
with whom you have had contact allows you the opportunity to recall your
wholeness. Just as the ego-self has you take failure and pain from a
past relationship, the Godself would have you take knowledge, love and
forgiveness. What you decide to take from a relationship is, in the end,
a decision you choose to make. In the moment, you have your choice of
teachers. Each teacher has lesson plans available for you to follow. Be
still for a moment and review the lessons you've taken from past
relationships. Once you understand the lessons you will know whose
teachings you have been following.
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James Blanchard Cisneros, You Have Chosen to Remember: A Journey From
Perception to Knowledge, Peace of Mind and Joy, p. 249-250
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Footnotes / Acknowledgments
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Kahlil Gibran, Jesus
Son of Man: His Words and His Deeds as Told and Recorded By Those Who
Knew Him, Copyright 1995 (Knoph).
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