Inspirational Quotes & Stories about Anger
"Anger. It's a
peculiar yet predictable emotion. It begins as a drop of water. An
irritant. A frustration. Nothing big, just an aggravation. Someone gets
your parking place. Someone pulls in front of you on the freeway. A
waitress is slow and you are in a hurry. The toast burns. Drops of
water. Drip. Drip. Drip. Drip. Yet, enough of these seemingly innocent
drops of anger and before long you've got a bucket full of rage. Walking
revenge. Blind bitterness. Unharnessed hatred. We trust no one and bare
our teeth at anyone who gets near. We become walking time bombs that,
given just the right tension and fear, could explode.
Now, is that any
way to live? What good has hatred ever brought? What hope has anger ever
created? What problems have ever been resolved by revenge?"
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Max Lucado,
No Wonder
They Call Him Savior
Cited in You Have Chosen to Remember, p. 152-153
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There is a difference between speaking with anger and speaking your
truth. When you speak with anger, know that the ego-self is speaking.
Know that you're reacting to and focusing on an illusion you see as
real. When you speak with anger you bring forth knowingly or not,
emotionally repressed feelings from the past. You replace the present
with the past and you lose the opportunity to experience what is really
going on.
When you speak with anger, you are not really concerned with how those
listening to you will feel. All you really care about is that your point
of view is heard. When you come from such a place, all you are doing is
making the listener defensive. The listener then puts up a wall to
defend himself or herself against the perceived attack. As a result, you
end up arguing or shouting at a wall with the hopes of being heard.
Regardless of how smart or right you believe yourself to be, you will
not be heard by a wall. Obviously, a wall is not a good listener, which
creates frustration. The frustration leads to confusion, which then ends
in regret. This person, knowing that he cannot communicate with you,
will move on to someone he believes will listen to what you did to him.
This creates more frustration and miscommunication on everyone's part.
In short, whenever you speak with anger, regardless of whether or not
you believe you have every right to do so, frustration, confusion,
separation and regret are your end result.
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James Blanchard Cisneros, You Have Chosen to Remember: A Journey From
Perception to Knowledge, Peace of Mind and Joy, p. 163-134
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When you react unconstructively, your emotion is that of anger. You
become angered by others' actions, which because of their immature
nature, they had little control over. Your anger now becomes an immature
reaction to their immature action. So ask yourself, where does this
leave the two of you? Definitely not in a peaceful place! This peaceful
place is found by reacting with compassion and love toward your brother
or sister. This peaceful place can be your goal in every situation. This
peaceful place is your natural state, and your natural state is not
temporal in nature.
Reacting with anger and condemnation might bring you a false and very
temporary state of peace from the simple misperception that you are
right and they are wrong, and that the wrong deserves to be punished.
Remember your ego always answers first, and its primary goal is for you
to separate from your brother or sister. Ask yourself: Would I rather be
right or happy? Would I rather express false power or experience
everlasting peace?
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James Blanchard Cisneros, You Have Chosen to Remember: A Journey From
Perception to Knowledge, Peace of Mind and Joy, p. 167
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The ego has taught you that if someone cuts you off in traffic, you
should react with emotions such as annoyance, irritation, anger, or
rage. The world considers any of these emotions to be natural and
deserved responses. The world tells you that you have every right to be
angry. It feels natural and right to react with anger because that is
how you have been trained and what you are now used to. In fact, you
probably consider what is natural and what you're used to as basically
the same thing. I offer to you that what you are used to and what is
natural more often than not are usually two completely different things.
Any time you react with anger, such a reaction occurs not because it is
natural, but because it is has become a bad habit. You have learned
negative tendencies, have not corrected them and they have now become
bad habits that you now call your natural behavior. You have repeated
these bad habits over a period of time and they have now become "second
nature" or natural tendencies. But many of those reactions you consider
natural tendencies have, in truth, nothing to do with your true nature.
As a child, your parents, other family members and friends probably
reacted this way. As a child this type of reaction was probably common,
first with your parents and family members, then with your peers. As
adults, they probably still react this way and you have probably joined
them in their thinking. At first, such reactions probably did not sit
right with you but as you heard your family react over and over in such
a manner, sooner or later you got used to the behavior, and let it be.
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James Blanchard Cisneros, You Have Chosen to Remember: A Journey From
Perception to Knowledge, Peace of Mind and Joy, p. 198
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The next time you become angry with another driver, feel what that does
to you, not only to your outer self but also to your inner self. Feel
the heavy fog roll through your heart, feel its denseness. Feel the
tension in your body, the anxiety. Then listen to the sadness in your
soul. Hear it for the first time asking you this one simple question:
Why would anyone in their right mind do something like this to
themselves over and over again? Ask yourself: "What am I doing to
myself? What am I accomplishing?" Then, as the fog dissipates and the
light begins to shine through, say this: I simply choose not to do this
any longer to myself! There is another way I can react! I will choose to
see God's child in my brother and sister!
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James Blanchard Cisneros, You Have Chosen to Remember: A Journey From
Perception to Knowledge, Peace of Mind and Joy, p. 203-204
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The only value
these behaviors hold for you and the world is for you to recognize them
for what they are to you and the world: your unnatural self, your false
self, your ego-self. The only value they hold for you and the world is
to experience them for a long enough period of time for you to get
physically, mentally and spiritually sick of them. When you've had
enough of them you will get to the point where you will no longer choose
or want to live this way. You will no longer choose to support them and
torture yourself. You will no longer choose to support them and torture
others.
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James Blanchard Cisneros, You Have Chosen to Remember: A Journey From
Perception to Knowledge, Peace of Mind and Joy, p. 213
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Footnotes / Acknowledgments
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Should any attribution be found to be incorrect, the author welcomes
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For material not in the public domain, selection was made according to
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Max Lucado, No Wonder
They Call Him Savior, Copyright 1998 (Thomas Nelson, Inc.)
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